Thinking Greek thoughts

Recently, it has come to my attention all of the negative connotations of Greek Life. I decided to rush again here at OU (I ended up dropping for various reasons I will address later) and upon signing up and going through the motions, I have seen firsthand the negative comments from both male and female parties across not only this campus but among others.

Throughout my time at both of my schools, I have had my fair share with Greek Life members. There have definitely been a few annoying sorority girls and some douchey frat boys, but that’s not to say I haven’t met girls outside of sororities who haven’t been annoying, and I know PLENTY of douchey guys without an SAE snapback. I just don’t understand why this stereotype still exists on those involved in Greek Life and people are so adamant about hating those involved.

This past week was Ohio’s recruitment process and in one of my Friday classes, this girl looked very cute, donning a floral romper, with hair curled to perfection and a full face of makeup. She sauntered into the lecture full of confidence ready for her rounds that day, bringing her closer to finding her sisterhood. A beefy blonde boy sat down next to her and hollered out “More sorority shit, huh?” The look on her face went from runway model to lost puppy in the rain. This girl was ecstatic about tonight’s festivities and this boy came down and crushed it. She responded with a meek “mhmm” and reached into her backpack for that class’ materials.

Friday night, I partook in the rush process as well. It was a bit chilly out and I had on a dress and scarf. I was anxious for the night so I called one of my best friends. I hadn’t told too many people I was rushing because it just never came up. While on the phone with her, I told her that I was rushing and had a break in between houses. I received a scoff from her end of the phone followed by, “sororities are stupid. Don’t pay for your friends.” She isn’t in a sorority and I’m almost certain she knows no one who is in a sorority. How does she know they’re stupid? She doesn’t. I proceeded to tell her that everything you pay for is all for something: shirts, formals, retreats, fundraising, the house, and so many other things. She decided, prior to this conversation, that it did not matter what I told her about sororities, she thought they were stupid as the icy sentence of “they’re stupid… but that’s just my opinion.” came out of her mouth and almost stabbed me through the phone. I called a friend because I wanted to think about something other than my anxieties of the night, and she just went and tripled them.

I ended up dropping out of the recruitment process that night, for a variety of reasons. One: the house I really liked was the most expensive of the 10 chapters. 2: The cruel opinions of Greek Life of almost everyone I know. Moreso I feel, because of the latter. Everyone says that it will work out in the end and maybe it’s better I didn’t join.. I will have more money for clothes and traveling and Christmas presents, but I might have found my long lost best friend had I stayed in the process. Who knows? I’m just wondering if due to the negative opinions of Greek life that is held by so many, it stops other girls from going Greek just as it had stopped me. Why can’t we let everyone just do their own thing? Why must we judge everyone for things they love? I just don’t get it

Alicia

Hello October

Or Hello October 3rd. Even though the month has already started, I still wanted to make my monthly goals. Do you have any goals for October?

  1. Go out at least once- most people are saying “go out less” but I haven’t been out all semester so I think I’ll go out for Halloween weekend, even though I work and have 3 tests the next week. My roommate, her friend, and I are going to be Buzz Lightyear, Woody, and Jessie from Toy Story
  2. Go to at least 3 CHAARG Spotlights- Each Wednesday, CHAARG has a group come to our rec center and they hold a workout session. I have been a bit anxious to go the last 2 times so I will be going to the spotlight on Tuesday and then i will attempt to go to 2 other (there are 5 total)
  3. Go to the gym 5 days a week- This was on my September goals but I’ve been slacking so it’s back for round 2
  4. Start listening to podcasts- I don’t know by who or about what, but I really want to listen to at least 1 podcast a week because yes, music is awesome, but you can learn so much from podcasts
  5. Explore Athens- While Athens is a pretty small city, there is so much to do around campus. I want to go to the farmer’s market at least once and head to a coffee shop or a cute boutique.

Those are my goals for October. What are yours?

Alicia

 

September Wrap up

And just like that, September is over. I have been shitty about posting but with work, class, homework, and sleep… your girl was busy. However, I still would like to wrap up and reflect on my September goals.

  1. Finish all of my homework the day BEFORE it is due. CHAMPION. I have been on top of all of my classes (knock on wood). Some days I have been doing work the day it’s due but at least I am getting it donw.
  2. Go to the gym 5 (or more) days a week. I am struggling with this. I love my roommate to pieces but she gets out of bed most days at 11 and I feel really bad for getting up. I try to set out my stuff most nights but my bed is comfy. I’m working on it though
  3. Call or Facetime my family at least twice a month. I talk to my dad almost every day, I try to call my sister on friday nights (she usually doesn’t answer) and I’ve talked to my mom twice in the last week so that’s a win right? Also I go home this weekend so I’ll talk to them then
  4. Practice good hygiene.I have been so freaking good about skincare omg my skin looks so good. It’s amazing what a solid routine and minimal stress will do for you
  5. Go to club meetings. I’ve been doing really well with CHAARG but all of the other clubs I want to join are Mondays while I have class. So I obviously can’t go to those.

 

How did you all do on your September goals?

Alicia

Life changes

I was listening to Thomas Rhett’s new album today and his song “Life Changes” really struck me. I was having a dance party alone in my room and started sobbing, something I’ve been doing quite a bit in my last year on this Earth.

I was always a rule follower. I did my homework, got straight A’s (for the most part), and did everything that was expected of me. I’ve never told anyone this but I’ve been thinking about the real reasons I left San Diego. I tell everyone I left because I changed my major. I really don’t believe that to be true. I tell everyone that San Diego has a crappy education program and I’m here because this one is better. I don’t know anything about San Diego’s education program if I’m being honest. It’s just easier.

I think the real reason I left San Diego was that I didn’t have a lot of friends there. Quality over quantity, I know, but I didn’t have any. There were people I talked to daily, because of class or we lived in the same building, but I didn’t have anyone I really connected with. I tried joining a sorority, I tried going places and joining clubs but I really just couldn’t make any friends. In November, my aunt and my friend Marisa, both ganged up on me to try and convince me to go to ASU. I couldn’t say no and I applied, got in, and was going to major in chemical engineering because that’s what my family thought was best.

It took me about 19 years to be a rule breaker, to go against the current, to say no to something. It changed my life. Taking a year off and changing my major to education was one of the most terrifying and exhilarating things I have ever done in my life.

That year-long break has made me a hard worker, made me break out of my shell, given me beautiful and kind friends, allowed me to see the world in all of its glory, and so much more.

I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting today. This past month was one of a terrifying months of my entire life. Starting college is a life-changing experience and I loved my freshman year at San Diego State (it’s San Diego.. What’s there to hate) but starting college a second time… that was terrifying.

Most people never thought that I would return to school after taking a year off, and I started to believe them. Maybe I would end up living in my parents’ basement for the rest of my life and work at McDonald’s until I could no longer move. Taking time off of school was the first thing I ever did that I decided 100% by myself… what if it backfired?

When I moved into my dorm last month, I was so terrified that I cried in the bathroom on the 5th floor of Baker (our union) for hours. I was terrified because I didn’t know anyone and thought that I’d made a mistake on Ohio. What if I chose to leave Ohio, and transfer again? I was terrified that I would never find my place.

However, I believe that after 5 weeks, I’m slowly starting to find my place. I joined an amazing club called CHAARG. These 203 other women are supportive, kind, strong (inside and out), and have made me feel welcome in a school of 30,000 others. I love my classes, professors, and my peers. This time off (and a new major) has made me fall in love with learning. In San Diego,  I slacked off a lot, I won’t lie, and I thought I was just lazy. In all reality, I was not interested in my classes. This year, I am almost always on top of assignments, I study at night, and have only watched one movie on Netflix.  I love working on school assignments, completing readings, and I am just enjoying learning. That year gave me a second wind and a newfound love for school that had been hiding for the past few years.

I am now confident that I have nothing to worry about. I now know that I was right to take a year off because, without it, I never would have come to OU, I never would have changed my major, joined CHAARG,  or fallen in love with learning.

Life certainly changes, and if you play your cards right, it will change in all the best ways. I promise

 

A peppy pupdate

Hi all, I’ve been completely swamped this week and this weekend and although I am loving it here, the amount of reading that goes into getting an education degree is immense and I physically cannot read anything else for the night, so I decided that I would write.

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A few months ago, I made a post about getting a dog. In that post, I also discussed how Poppy had contracted heartworm in the kennel she was at in Alabama.

Yesterday my mom brought Poppy to the vet to get her blood drawn to see if she was heartworm negative and we could slowly start increasing her activity, or if she was heartworm positive and we had another month or so of treatment.

This afternoon, I received the best news possible! Poppy is HEARTWORM NEGATIVE!!! I started crying in my dorm because I had so many emotions. I wish I were home to give her a big hug and a peanut butter bone, but I’m sure my family is taking good care of her.

Soon she will be back at full energy (I am terrified to see what that is) and she will be in extreme training to work on her constant barking and leash pulling. Counting down the days until I get to see her again

Until next time

Alicia

Work work work work work

Hi all, today I sort of wanted to discuss what I do at work since I just finished my first week and know my duties for each shift. Also I enjoy work for the most part, which is always a good thing 🙂


Tuesdays

I just worked my first Tuesday shift yesterday and on Tuesdays (unlike my other 2 days) I stock. Today was actually my most boring day at work because it should really only be a 1 person job, yet usually there are 2-3 people stocking. My stocking partner, Gary, and I spent the day stocking what we could, pacing around the store waiting for people to buy things so we could restock what they had just selected, and talking about ourselves (since we’ll tentatively be spending every Tuesday for the rest of the semester together).

Gary is also a transfer student who lives in the other transfer dorm on campus, and he is majoring in Applied Nutrition. He transferred from Ohio State and based off of what I’ll tell you next I don’t believe he’s flown much. Something myself and most of the people I know are pretty used to me going from Chicago to San Diego to Chicago to Peru to Chicago to Ohio. However, people from here are not. I said I transferred from SDSU and that I’m from Chicago (not even gliding over my gap year or peru excursion) and his mouth was on the floor. “You must be pretty used to flying then huh? Wild” Wild is right Gary. He also mentioned that he’s heard Chicago is pretty liberal but I’m not sure if that was remarked positively or negatively, so we’ll have to wait and see. Nevertheless, he was cute and sweet and I’ll be looking forward to working stock shifts because I’ll be able to see my new bud Gary.


Thursdays

On Thursdays I work with smoothies. The market I work in has a small smoothie bar called “Smooth Moves” and basically I just make smoothies for 4 hours. It’s a lot easier than I thought because everything is labeled nicely and all of the recipes are taped to the wall. Everyone I work with there is a senior which is a little intimidating but they all said I’d done a great job last week on my first day and that normally when someone new is at smoothie, it’s a shit show. So i’m pretty proud of myself. I haven’t gotten the hang of everything yet but I’m sure I’ll know which container is peaches and which is mixed berry in no time.


Saturdays

Saturdays are for the girls.. And Nick. On Saturdays I work at Smooth Moves again, but I also close. I work from 6pm- close. Which should be from 6-9 but last Saturday I wasn’t out of there until 10. No big deal for me; $8.15 more for me and an excuse not to go out and party. Win win. I work with Heather, Madison, Rhiannon, Olivia, and Nick. Heather, Madison, and Rhiannon are freshman and god is it obvious! I hope it wasn’t that obvious for me. Olivia is also a sophomore and she is my favorite coworker on Saturdays. Nick works the cash register across the store so we really only socialize when we’re closing.

Saturdays seem like they’ll be fun because it’s pretty busy which makes the night go by fast and we all bonded a lot when we had to close the whole market and then some of the attached dining hall because people don’t know how to do their jobs. Also we close at 9 and even though we say that, people still stagger in until 915 or so, which is annoying but we let it slide.


That’s a week in the life of work for me. I’m really surprised I liked it this much and I can’t wait to keep making my smoothies and stocking (talking to Gary) !!!

Alicia

A little less weird

It’s been about 10 days since I’ve moved into my dorm and said that everything was weird. Ohio is still a little weird, but significantly less weird, which is all I could have asked for.

My roommate and I are getting along well and Friday night we made a Walmart run at 2 in the morning and we got a fish for our room. We named him Adam Benjamin. Adam because we live in Adams Hall and Benjamin after a boy we want to befriend. Only a little weird. We have been talking tons and we are very similar, we’re both very glad we got paired together and didn’t get someone else. She also says I’m very easy to talk to which is really reassuring since I feel like I’m the most awkward person on the face of the planet.

I think what I really needed was for school to start. I crave a schedule because without one, I just lie around and wait for something to happen.

Once school started and my books started to arrive I have been working on homework, talking to people in my classes, etc. I am still a little anxious about being here but I’m working on it.

I also got a job! I am working at one of the campus markets. I work Tuesdays, Thursdays, and every other Saturday which isn’t too bad. I just make smoothies for 4 hours and the people I have worked with so far have been pleasant and nothing but kind to me.I am joining a few more clubs this week and still making it too the gym whenever I can. So, once I get in the swing of things and don’t have to pull out my phone each time I go to class to remember each classroom number, I think the weirdness will subside completely.

In the meanwhile, I have a 22 page article to read and annotate for Wednesday, so wish me luck

Alicia 🙂