31 days of self-love challenge: Day 10

 How can you set better boundaries in your life?

I’ve never been one to set boundaries well, in fear of backing down on them or hurting others but a friend of mine and I recently had a conversation about boundary setting so I’ll post her tips for this one.

  1. When you identify the need to set a boundary, do it clearly, calmly, and in as few words as possible. Do not justify, apologize for, or rationalize the boundary you are setting. Just set the boundary calmly, firmly, clearly, and respectfully.
  2. After setting your boundaries, you are in no way responsible for how others react to the said boundary. Do not back down on it just to make others happy.
  3. If you feel selfish or guilty about your new boundary, that’s okay. Keep strong with your boundaries.
  4. Most people are willing to respect your boundaries, but some are not. Be prepared for this and never back down.
  5. Setting boundaries can and will take time. Be patient
  6. Develop a support system of those who support your boundaries and keep them close.

How do you all set boundaries in your lives??

Alicia

 

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Alicia

alicia. 21. chicago. athens. ou. vegan. blogger. college student. chaargie. intersectional feminist. future CEO. trying my best. lover of the color blue, no-chip manicures, and nitro cold brew.

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